"Her Stupid Comments"
My fiance doesn't seem to notice, either that or he doesn't care. His mother is always making snide, underhanded comments to me or about me, and though I try to let it blow over me like she never even said anything, some times the comments hurt so much that it knocks me on my ass. I try to save myself the argument these days with my fiance, but it gets to the point that I feel as if I have to say something. I understand it is his mother, and I'm not trying to separate them or cause a rift, but I'm tired of her acting like the victim when I'm hurt. She says these things then is so taken aback when I ask her not to or bring it up in conversation she acts like I'm attacking her. I honestly want to tell her to get over herself already. I'm sorry that she had a crappy life and the things that her son and I get to do now she didn't when she first got married, but it's not like she never had a choice--as often as she would like to tell me that she didn't, we all know that she could have said no. Stop trying to hold your children back because you didn't experince much. Take responsibility for your actions, deal with it, move on, and leave the rest of us alone! 
Hey don't feel bad. I was in the same boat. Nothing I did helped and nothing I said really mattered. If she refuses to like you there really isn't much you can do but ignore her. She willl always find things wrong with you & what you say if she really wan